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Merrily Down the Garden Path

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Is it just me or is the bloom off the rose of social media? Maybe I’m preaching to the choir here, but it seems to me that as the focus of Facebook and Twitter has changed from, “Look at me and all of the interesting things I’m doing!” to “Buy this!” the social aspect of connecting with friends and family has slowly been leached out of the media.

I’ve never been a big fan of Facebook. I just don’t have enough friends online or off to require a repository to keep up with them. And besides my writing, I don’t have enough interesting happenings going on in my life to require instant status updates. I have to admit, it is much easier to share photos and quick messages with family and my few far-flung friends, but if the news is big enough, we still call each other or text or send an email.

As for Twitter, for me the platform has devolved into 140 character commercials. When I first joined a little over a year ago, the art of the mini conversation–enticing people to connect with you through short bursts of witty banter–was becoming a valid art form. I liked the give and take, matching wits and quotes with like-minded people. The fun of Twitter, however, quickly faded as my posts and follows were greeted with stock replies of, “Thanks for following. Now, please check out my website/blog/author page and buy my book!” I can honestly say that throughout my Twitter adventure, not one long and involved conversation ended without a plea for a book purchase. In some cases, I bought the books; in other cases, I felt manipulated.

Now I know it’s all about the numbers. We’ve been convinced that the more likes and followers we have, the more successful we will be as authors or salespeople or entrepreneurs. (Maybe that’s really one job description: it seems impossible nowadays to be a writer without also being head of sales as well as the leader of our own one-(wo)man band/corporation/organization.) Long gone are the days of hole-ing up to write “The Great American Novel.” Now you have to be “out there” building a presence, developing a fandom with followers. And then you have to write four or five or six more books just like that while you hawk your work on Facebook and Twitter and every new platform that comes along. Forget about writing good books or building relationships or maintaining the ones you have. It’s all about the advertising. Sell, sell, sell! is the new mantra of the upwardly social.

As for me, I’m stepping off the garden path and letting the crowd pass me by. Social interaction makes me uncomfortable hence my comfort in being a cave dweller. As for the internet and life in the social matrix? There has to be a better way.

So, today I’ll leave you with this:

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may, Old Time is still a-flying: And this same flower that smiles today, To-morrow will be dying. Robert Herrick (1591 – 1674)

(I wonder how many will remember this from lit class and how many will think of HBO’s Newsroom?)


Thank you!

Thank you

We’ve had a GREAT first week! I’m very excited about the number of views and followers Cave Dweller has gained–thanks to YOU!– and I hope that the numbers will continue to climb as word spreads that we’re here. I’ve had a lot of fun writing and developing the pages  and finding topics to include and share with you. As I’ve said, writing is what I love to do. Being social? Not so much.

Moving forward, I want to continue to explore what it means to be a Cave Dweller in a social world, and your suggestions and ideas are always welcome.

If you’d like to be a guest blogger, let me know. I’m always happy to listen to and share new perspectives. We’re wide open here and ready to talk about anything that you might find of interest.

I hope you’ll take a break from life and work or whatever keeps you busy each day to take a poll and leave me a comment. I know, I know–this isn’t a social site. But your insights will help me keep Cave Dweller a cave you will want to visit again and again.

Have a great weekend! (And don’t forget to take today’s poll!)

The Challenge of Finding Success From Inside the Cave

Writing from inside the cave is relatively easy. Not that writing is ever a piece of cake, mind you, what with the revisions and edits and rewrites and all. But working from inside the cave is comfortable, loaded down as I am with books and Netflix and cable TV. Being successful at selling my writing from inside the cave is proving to be a much greater challenge, however, considering that the world of marketing exists partly in the outside world in personal appearances at book stores, and libraries, and reading groups, and largely on the internet within social media platforms. 

Tweet, tweet, tweet.

Social media is the absolute best way to sell books. It is. It must be. Everybody’s doing it! Even I have a Facebook author page for ColleenSayreWriter but I must admit, I don’t get much traffic. I have 107 “Likes” on my page after several months of pushing it out there. But I’m not discouraged simply because I believe that the people who are interested in buying and reading my books are people who don’t have Facebook pages or Twitter accounts or a presence on LinkedIn. And that’s perfectly fine with me. My challenge, though, is finding ways to reach people like me who happen to be my target audience. 

Hang in there. Help is on the way!

I did some research today while contemplating upcoming blog posts. It’s interesting to me the number of articles that are out there on the joys of living alone–while waiting to find the right person with whom to share your life. Or articles on how to cope after the loss of a loved one, how to hang on until help arrives in the form of family members or friends or a soon-to-be-found new loved one. But this is not cave dwelling. 

I think (I hope) I clarified in my first blog Welcome! that cave dwelling is not a life style necessarily experienced in solitude or isolation. Cave dwelling is simply the choice not to participate in never-ending bouts of social activity and finding pleasure in simply being: sometimes alone and sometimes in concert with other cave dwellers who either happen to live with us or have come out long enough to touch base with other cave dwellers. 

We can do this!

I’m not giving up and neither should you if your goal is to find a way to succeed from within the cave. Opportunities abound. They’re out there, and as I find them, I’ll share them with you. I hope you’ll do the same. Copy an URL address in the COMMENTS section and I’ll share what you find with my readers. I can even post it on Facebook for you if you don’t have an account, and all 107–wait, make that 108–friends can share in the spoils. 

I wish you a happy, quiet, peaceful evening–from my cave to yours.